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An addition to the article ‘Facebook Lessons’ by Gov. Jun A. Ynares.

FB habitué [huh-bich-oo-ey].

Okay, allow me to call myself one. This is the first time I encountered this word when Gov. Ynares used this in his Manila Bulletin article last Sunday, September 4, and it sounds so beautiful I wanted to name and consider myself like one.

Admittedly, I am a frequent visitor to the Facebook site. In fact there even came a time when it became an addiction. Even when I no longer know what to share about what I am thinking, I enjoy just reading what’s on the newsfeed, just looking at my friends’ photos and just being in the loop about what’s happening to their lives. I was even caught twice by my former boss on this site while at work and trust me, the first time is quite  a thrill but the second time, it was plain awkward so I toned down a little – I tried my very best not to be caught one more time.

And a lot has happened at work and in my life since then and FB played a huge role in every twist of it that I consider it part of my life already.

And then I chanced upon this article ‘Facebook Lessons’ on my Sunday newspaper. I was intrigued as to what other lessons I might have missed so I read on.

‘A temptation I cannot afford to succumb to at the moment’

Bang. The writer wrote these words when he shared what FB is for him and it hit me right on, I can’t help not to write about it.

FB, indeed, is one hell of a temptation that it can even make or break a lot of things not just relationships.

And so I admire the writer for seeing it that way that in return prompted him to take a very noble action – acknowledging its importance by not denying its advantages in this technological world but more importantly, prioritizing other important matters, which in his case is his wife and daughters and his work as a public servant because truly, giving in to this ‘temptation’ will eat up time and it detaches one from reality.

Coincidentally, the homily last Sunday is about building community and according to the priest, one of the challenges we face in this world is preserving our identity. To address that, one joins different communities and different organizations because in a sense, those associations give us an identity as a person.

I, for one, is a testament to that. My being a member of the Shell Linear Park Tennis Association not only gives me a certain feeling of belongingness, but also a sense of identity. It speaks of the athlete in me and lawn tennis being a gentleman’s game speaks of the kind of person that I am and it also speaks of the people I am surrounded with because this particular community shares the same values and principles that its members follow by heart.

But how do we choose a community we would want to belong to? According to the homily, an ideal community is one that is built on love.

FB, being a community, should also be built on love. And whether or not we are an FB habitué, once we decide to make our presence felt on this site, we should understand that we are already being part of it and it is our responsibility to act accordingly.

Like what the writer mentioned in his article, the freedom of expression is far greater in FB than anywhere else that it has the power to make one subject for scrutiny and vulnerability. True. But why put negativity in this community?I admit being guilty of this before but it’s one of the lessons I learned.

What we are in this community shows a big part of our identity. So before you add, like, share and post something, ask yourself if that is how you want to preserve your identity.


What do you think of this? Love, Rikki.

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