I bought fifteen new books before the year started and out of those new treasures, this seemed to be the most appropriate at this time – ‘It’s about the Art, not the War’ it says.
So here are 32 valuable lessons I picked up from this book that I hope will help those who, like me, are facing/dealing some challenging things or tough times with their work/career:
1.You have to give up your attachment to clear-cut realities and instead embrace the whole spectrum of colors and paradox and ambiguity
I learned this early on during my salesman career – attach, detach. But it never gets easy.
2.Don’t look for rules or consistency. The only rule is, there are no rules
While I long have accepted that there are always exceptions to the rules, it’s quite hard for me to accept that there is none. Rules always give that sense of direction.
3.When you do the right thing for the right reason, the right result awaits
4.’Having it all’ means something different to different people
5.Always find a new job before you quit your old one
I have this principle when it comes to relationship and work not to look for another one when I’m still involve with one. I usually wait until it’s all over and done with the previous one before hopping on to the next. But it’s never successful – I always end up staying. Playing safe, it seems is the surest way to go.
6.Sell yourself first. Until you have convinced the world that you are worthy of great things, don’t expect to be given much responsibility
7.You need to take a giant step back. Understanding the opposition begins with understanding yourself
8.Live every workday as if it were your last day on the job, and you’ll be amazed at how focused and confident you’ll be
9.If you get hurt enough, eventually you learn
Hardest way but the surest way! 🙂 Nothing beats this one – tried and tested.
10.A unique resume requires some soul-searching
11.Win first, then fight.
12. Victory is not in your control but rather the gift of your enemy
13.No matter how hard you work, no matter how much you prepare, you will encounter things that you didn’t plan for – you will have to adapt
14.The battle plan will change as your opponents grow stronger. What will remain is you
15.Be nice to yourself first. Let the rest of humanity take care of themselves
16.You cannot climb the corporate ladder with glass slippers on; for that you need combat boots. It takes a warrior to climb a ladder – the point is, we need to choose
17.Notice the signals of timing hidden all around
18.The truth is less important than what your opponents believe to be true
19. You need to call on that power of perseverance when things are not going your way
20.We all need to simmer from time to time
21.Women from Mars never get to the top
22.There is something that all Venus women forget: there is always a younger Venus waiting to replace her
23.Earth women succeed
24.If you know how to handle one person, then undoubtedly you can manage a million people as a single unit
25. No good can come of praising or punishing people when they don’t deserve it – you need to impose discipline appropriately
26.The hotter the position, the hotter the seat
27. Why fight if you don’t have to?
28.You do not always know why people do what they do; they just do it
29. The courage to finish the job, that’s the killer instinct
30.Not every battle is worth the fight
31.When you play with fire, you get burned
32.The secret is endurance – change what you can, endure what you cannot