December 29, 2013
When things are going cray-cray, being with your cray-cray friends on a stressful Saturday is the surest way I know to keep me sane and steady. I love these nymphets to bits! Chasing happiness with them just comes naturally!
Finding the perfect place for lunch at Solenad, Nuvali, Sta. Rosa, Laguna
Claw Daddy and Domo Tomo
I can’t be more thankful enough. Being blessed by mean and witty dearies, what else could I ask for!
The ones who would give you options either Quick and Easy or Long and Tormenting and all agree on the the long and tormenting. (Haha, yeah we’re ‘masokista’ like that)
The ones who would tell you to be stern or just ignore it, but the ones who are first to explain when confronted, hahaha. I’m blessed.
No wonder we all love Mean Girls. ‘So fetch.’ Haha, see you all tonight! Advance happy, happy, burdei girl-soon-to-be-wed Luiwiwiwi!
Hello, love month! I was browsing through my Facebook newsfeed tonight when I saw a post from my org sis and I really wanted to hug her sooo tight after reading the whole thing.
The situation looks familiar but although I somehow think I know how she feels, I’m sure it’s different and it’s unique to her, no one can really tell it’s exactly the same.
You see – every heart story is like that, one of a kind – as well as its heartbreaks and its bliss.
But there’s also something so strange that connects each story – and that is love at its purest form of loving. I’m sure every heart that loved so sincerely and so purely knows and understands it.
So, here, dear Tuhtah (Tata), a friend told me this when I was at the ‘same’ phase that you are currently in. These words made a difference to me, hope this helps:
‘Di talaga magiging madali yan. It will take time. Depende sa’yo kung gano katagal dahil ikaw ang magdedesisyon kung tatapusin mo na ba ang misery mo o hindi pa. In the meantime, iiyak mo lang ng iiyak. Ubusin mo. But at the end of all your crying, each and every time, tell yourself and believe that everything’s happening for a bigger, better purpose. Yes, it won’t be easy, but that too shall pass’
I rarely catch up on my friends these days but when I did go online last night, I happened to be a witness of this turning point of the love stories of my two closest friends and my emotions were literally split between them.
L wants to chat on FB but I suggested we use Google Talk instead. While waiting for her to go online, I saw C’s available so I started a conversation to really check if she’s there. And she replied and opened it with what happened between her and K just before that. I was so sad knowing they almost ended it – and felt sad even more knowing what could have been the reason – differences that they managed to handle well for the last four years.
And then L on the other chatbox was so excited and was so happy because her long-distance love is on his way from Australia to spend the whole week with her here. And she can’t even describe how excited she was knowing he’s already boarding the plane and will be here early in the morning. I was as excited and so happy for her because I’ve long seen her that happy and she deserves it.
My emotions were on a rollercoaster all those times – I can’t help not to feel for both of them at the same time – one is a relationship that is being tested after years of shared commitment and loyalty and the other one is a three-month long distance relationship that is just starting and will yet have to stand the test of time and proximity. Bottomline – all parties in these two relationships made a compromise because in the end, it’s still their love that weighs heavily than their differences.
Funny thing is, C and L also ended our chat at the same time and for the same reason – sleep. C excused herself because her head already hurts from crying while L needs to sleep in preparation for A’s arrival.
So while they both try to doze off, I, on the other hand was left with a lot of thoughts to ponder on and I literally can’t sleep. Is love really braver at the start – willing to take any risks and everything? Is it more meaningful and more real when there is already pain that comes in loving someone so much that sometimes, making a difficult decision is no longer optional but necessary? How long can compromises keep up and make up for the differences?
Because today is Crea’s 2*th birthday, I wouldn’t miss this chance to let this birthday girl know how lucky I am to have a friend like her. Hmmm … that’s understatement, I guess. She knows she’s more than a friend to me, she’s like my twin soul!
And here is my list of the Things I Love about Her (tibo?) haha:
1. She looks like Bella Swan
We were in Taal Vista and that was during the peak of the Twilight movie and I really can’t help but notice how she resembles Bella. The look, the expressions … but Crea’s way interesting 🙂
2. Her ‘Lola’ Dance
Really, she can dance. But just her kind of dance. And if not for her I wouldn’t know that this lola dance exists. Now I,too, know now how to Lola Dance, tsk tsk.
3. She drinks a lot – NOT
Because she gets super red when she attempts to do so and it’s not just ‘blushy red, it’s like REALLY RED. And not just spotty red, it’s all-over-the-face red 🙂
4. She has a soft heart for kids
She loves to make them cry, too. Haha. I kid.
5. She’s artistic!
Iyakin. Choz. Nah, she’s creative. For instant gift/surprise ideas, Crea’s always there to the rescue. In fact, she already has loyal clients – Faith and I 🙂
6. She loves to share her blessings.
In fact, she used to always bring us Chowking’s Buchi. And she used to divide her packed lunch among us especially if it’s her mom’s chicken parmigiana (my favorite).
7. She’s never drunk
Good girl, check, but not because she can’t handle herself. It’s because she doesn’t want people to see her really RED and that’s what’s really stopping her. Haha.
8. She’s a ‘songer’.
Some of her favorite videoke songs: Spice Girls songs, Ate Katy Perry’s songs, Gotta Be. She raps, too 🙂 So, don’t give her a chance to hold the mic during videoke nights sessions, okidoki.
9. She’s techy and ‘henyo’
All the gadgets and gizmos, you can ask her and she can answer you. *nosebleed
10. She’s my first travel buddy
And then we’ve been forever roommates in all of our company travels. And even if we’re no longer connected in one company, we still see each other somewhere out there.
11. She plays billiards like a pro
12. She has an eye for photography
Because she’s techy, she knows the nice cameras and she loves the old school ones, not the digital ones, the ones with films, and the pictures – lovely.
15. Certified member of the PG-attack gang
Yeah, she’s one of the original members. And she also organized some of those PG-attack moments. Our favorite targets – Club Manila East for their Binagoongan and of course, the Traders Hotel and Yakimix’s buffet. Even if it was just the two of us left now, we still manage to have a Mister-Kabab attack once in a while.
And while I’m so busy writing this, she suddenly texted and next thing I know we’ve been talking for less than an hour. Shooot, had she somehow felt I’ve been writing things about her? Haha. See, that’s how our souls are connected. Good thing we talked also, I’m all the more convinced that these are really the things I so find adorable about her…
16. We can easily spot the ‘not’s’
I think that’s what happens when you two think alike and you two love to laugh about the same things – in a subtle way. So even without blurting it out or thinking it out aloud, just one stare, even that pa-tago or pa-simple stare, we know we understand each other perfectly well.
17. We already created our own vocabulary
18. She thinks maturely
Between us, she’s always the mature one. She’s more in control of her feelings and she’s always been objective in analyzing situations, BUT …
19. She’s forever clueless when it comes to CERTAIN things
Because she has a good heart, she will never assume things unless you tell her directly. So even if all the people around her thinks that something is so obvious, she wouldn’t think that way. And that’s when she seeks for my expertise. Haha. So in very rare cases like that (fourth time to date in our more than three years of friendship), I feel like I’m the ‘mature’ one 🙂
20. She’s a cry baby
I asked her this morning her birthday wish and when I asked her if that wish came true, it did … plus this story of her being teary-eyed at first that eventually led to crying. Then I remembered her last day in our office last year. She said she’s not feeling anything extraordinary the whole time – just normal. But when it’s already the last hour, tadaaan, that’s when her tears started to fall.
And that’s what I’ll always treasure about her.
When things are tough, she can be strong for you up to the point that she’s the only one left reaching out a helping hand just so you could get through. At the same time, she’s not afraid to share her doubts and uncertainties, too, be it career-move or some plain ‘girly’ stuff like what we talked a while ago.
I’m just so lucky to have her as my friend. Happy Birthday, Crea! Love, Rikki.