Chin-Ning Chu’s The Art of War for Women

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I was having internal struggles/conflicts the past weeks/months that I decided to start my year with this book, ‘The Art of War for Women’ by Chin-Ning Chu.

I bought fifteen new books before the year started and out of those new treasures, this seemed to be the most appropriate at this time – ‘It’s about the Art, not the War’ it says.

So here are 32 valuable lessons I picked up from this book that I hope will help those who, like me, are facing/dealing some challenging things or tough times with their work/career:

1.You have to give up your attachment to clear-cut realities and instead embrace the whole spectrum of colors and paradox and ambiguity

I learned this early on during my salesman career – attach, detach. But it never gets easy.

2.Don’t look for rules or consistency. The only rule is, there are no rules

While I long have accepted that there are always exceptions to the rules, it’s quite hard for me to accept that there is none. Rules always give that sense of direction.

3.When you do the right thing for the right reason, the right result awaits

4.’Having it all’ means something different to different people

5.Always find a new job before you quit your old one

I have this principle when it comes to relationship and work not to look for another one when I’m still involve with one. I usually wait until it’s all over and done with the previous one before hopping on to the next. But it’s never successful – I always end up staying. Playing safe, it seems is the surest way to go.

6.Sell yourself first. Until you have convinced the world that you are worthy of great things, don’t expect to be given much responsibility

7.You need to take a giant step back. Understanding the opposition begins with understanding yourself

8.Live every workday as if it were your last day on the job, and you’ll be amazed at how focused and confident you’ll be

9.If you get hurt enough, eventually you learn

Hardest way but the surest way! 🙂 Nothing beats this one – tried and tested.

10.A unique resume requires some soul-searching

11.Win first, then fight.

12. Victory is not in your control but rather the gift of your enemy

13.No matter how hard you work, no matter how much you prepare, you will encounter things that you didn’t plan for – you will have to adapt

14.The battle plan will change as your opponents grow stronger. What will remain is you

15.Be nice to yourself first. Let the rest of humanity take care of themselves

16.You cannot climb the corporate ladder with glass slippers on; for that you need combat boots. It takes a warrior to climb a ladder – the point is, we need to choose

17.Notice the signals of timing hidden all around

18.The truth is less important than what your opponents believe to be true

19. You need to call on that power of perseverance when things are not going your way

20.We all need to simmer from time to time

21.Women from Mars never get to the top

22.There is something that all Venus women forget: there is always a younger Venus waiting to replace her

23.Earth women succeed

24.If you know how to handle one person, then undoubtedly you can manage a million people as a single unit

25. No good can come of praising or punishing people when they don’t deserve it – you need to impose discipline appropriately

26.The hotter the position, the hotter the seat

27. Why fight if you don’t have to?

28.You do not always know why people do what they do; they just do it

29. The courage to finish the job, that’s the killer instinct

30.Not every battle is worth the fight

31.When you play with fire, you get burned

32.The secret is endurance – change what you can, endure what you cannot

Monday Thoughtsy: When To Let Go

I wish I could tell myself this is ‘just’ work over and over again and not forget it every single time but I don’t, and my heart’s crushed again and I keep on reminding myself instead that I’m doing all these for You, Lord – all you have showered me with I’m using for Your purpose. Heal my heart and lead my life, please – when to attach and when to detach, papa God. When to let go, let me know.

Thursday Thoughtsy: Bittersweet

Phase like this, I only have to open my old planners and voilah: sensible words that caught my attention few day/s or year/s ago and are still working the same magic to my inner being.

Say, like this one: Bittersweet: when life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. when life is bitter, say thank you and grow

It’s really amazing how things are always at the right time and at the right moment when you need them to be. But the most important about all these – taking action.

What I have learned before the hardest, I shall apply now. Work is like any relationship, if they don’t see your worth and are taking you for granted, have the decency to walk away and regain your self. After all, God knows my heart and my dreams, and all these, I lift to Him. Your will be done, Lord. Lots of love, Rikki 🙂

The First Month that Was

October 3, I was still doubting whether or not my first day will really start. It has been postponed three times. But when I finally saw the sign on the Sales Room that says ‘Welcome New Frabelle Foods Sales Force’ and saw it jampacked with people with some that have that ‘neophyte’ look, wow, I know it’s game on and this is really is it.

I’ve been praying so hard for this and looking back at my ‘notes’, this is a blessing and an answered prayed, indeed.

Day 1:

Thank you so much, Lord, for this wonderful start. I know you really put me here and I’m accepting this with all my heart. Thank you sincerely, Lord, for blessing me with this one. Thank you for all the people who have been a huge part of this bigger plan of Yours. Use me, dear Lord, so I, too, may serve Your purpose. Amen.

Day 2:

I feel so blessed every single second of every day. Thank you so much, Lord. Help me to remain humble at all times. Let me not forget that it is Your heart I am carrying in my life and that Your love is the purpose of my existence.

Let me not forget, Lord, that my deeds reflect on You and on my parents and that Your kindness and peace should always be the deeds I am extending to others. I love you so much, Lord. Thank you for loving me this much.

Day 3:

Time moved sooo slooooowly today and I just contented myself sipping coffee one cup after another. For the last two days, Grace had been my companion. Just like Lola and Crea, she walks me to the spot where I can ride my way home. And now Lance and then Joan. Cheers to Day 3’s friendliness.

Day 4:

I think I crossed some line today. I can’t help but be grateful for the trainings and opportunities my former company and bosses have given me. I appreciate and miss them more. I miss our sales people. I miss my friends. But I have to accept that this is my reality now. And I have to adjust. Good thing I already know the power of silence and just keep my negative thoughts with me.

Forgive me, Lord, and thank you for overpowering my bad thoughts with Your wisdom, kindness and love.

Day 5:

The training was very humbling. At first I was comparing it to the trainings we had at my previous company. I even texted one of the bosses to let him know how much I appreciate the trainings and the modules I have been a part of.

I am happy to inform him that I am already beginning my success story in my company now and he is very generous enough to say kind words and extend help in case I need one. I am more than inspired.

As we go along the day, I realized I may know advance sales trainings but right now, we are all beginners and that’s where I need to begin – from the start. So even if I’m sure I already know the things being discussed, I changed my mindset. I emptied those knowledge and open my mind to what’s being discussed. And then I focused and got inspired even more.

I realized, I really need to let go of the past for me to have a good grip of the present. I learned. And I should always remember that only they gave me this chance, this rare opportunity to start anew and to change my path so I owe this to them big time and I should really really appreciate and put more value to the things they are imparting on me as a sales person and as a person.

Be humble and learn. I only have to remember that lowest point in my life for me to never ever have a chance to lift these feet on the ground.

Day 6:

I’ve been seeing signs that this is really the company for me: fieldwork (my passion) and Starbucks Venti Caramel Macchiato with extra Caramel Drizzle (my fave) plus Vitamin C from the bosses given to us with love. What could get better than this?

Day 7:

The training was so inspiring. The more I embrace it, the more reasons I find why this is the company I really see myself growing old with. The company and the people honor God, they value family, they respect each and every one, they understand quality time with the loved ones and most of all, they want us all to WORK with a HEART.

November 3. What I learned in that first week, I applied and I am still applying in my day-to-day interactions. My first month was a total blast! My love for God is growing every single day, my family is happy because of the blessings that came pouring nonstop, I have good relationship with my colleagues, I still have time to do the things I love and not cut the connections and communications with people who I now treat not as mere friends but as my dearly precious ones.

Above all these, I love what I’m doing because I work with my heart. Cheers to more blissful and blessed months! Love, Rikki

What to Love Being in Sales

1. You’re Always On the Go: (Lovely day, stormy day, any time of the day)

2. You Know the Best Places to Eat

Sinigang na Tilapia in Montalban, Rizal

ULO2 sa Vet (Maginhawa St. Sikatuna Village, Q.C.). Ulo-ulo (pink salmon head – good for 2). Best way to eat this: supsop.Rice (good for 1 but just an extra cup of rice would never be enough)

 

3. You always Bring your Salesmanship with You: You try to sell wherever you go

4. You All Agree on the Best ‘Bisyo (Addictions)‘ after Eating: Kape or yosi (smoke)

5. You Know when To Take a Break after Hard Weeks’ Work

Not Your Ordinary Manic Monday

I’ve been coming home late almost every day since I started working again and every time I feel tired, I read this note I’ve written when I was still on a job-hunt mode:

August 24, 2011

I went home this morning from a sleepover at a friend’s house feeling so empty. Everyone’s rushing to go to work while I am just heading home. For them, it’s Monday again, THE day almost everyone dread as if the name itself has a curse. I can see the look on their faces. I’m sure I used to have the same look on mine but right now, I just can’t understand why one feels that way about that day.

I’ve no work and they have. Yet they look unhappy.

I’ve nothing to work on the whole day while they have a chance to work their way on their future. Yet they look exhausted.

I’ve nowhere to go almost every single day and no one to talk to until my friends got off from work while they have a sure third place where they can see and interact with people they can also consider their extended family. Yet they look not interested.

I ‘envy’ them for having something that I am looking forward to these days but they don’t seem to appreciate and put value to it. If only I can make them realize how blessed they are for having work, maybe they’d be as excited and as driven as I picture myself to be when I finally have one again.

Promise to self: I’ll love Mondays and I’ll welcome Monday with an overwhelming drive and passion. And I’ll treat every single work day a blessed day. I only have to always remember that somewhere out there, there is one person who is so like me right now, who would trade anything just to be given a chance to experience this and to start his own success story.

Work – come to me, please! I promise I’ll treasure and put more value to you more than ever now that I know how it feels like to be so deprived of you. Come now, come soon. I’m so ready for you. Love, Rikki.

First Day Preparations

If there is one thing I really look forward to since I got back is working again. Life being a bum is no fun – well, at least for me. And when I finally signed that offer last Monday stating my being a career woman again effective September 15, I couldn’t contain my happiness.

I am so excited big time! Well, I finally get that job I am praying for and I already see myself getting back on track to achieving my BIG dreams. Two days – I told myself – two days and this bumming around will finally come to its glorious end. Whew.

The countdown:

Two Days to Go. Tuesday is the world’s most beautiful day in the universe. So, after watching the Miss Universe pageant, I got so inspired with all those gorgeous candidates and told myself I want my first day at my new work to be my most beautiful day as well.

Also, based on my experience in my previous work, first look (including the accessories), not the first impression, lasts! Trust me, it does – that’s what made my high heels and my big loop earrings famous in that company 😮

But that was already taken care of. My problem really is my hair. It’s dead. It’s actually beyond damaged so I just described it dead – I had it curled and it died. Poor hair. And whenever I go to the salon to have it fixed, the hairdressers are literally giving up on it. They said it’s hopeless.

So, this has been my motto: when the hairdressers give up on my hair … I don’t.

what to do?

rikki's scissors to the rescue!

now i'm ready 😮

One Day to Go. Hair Done. Clothes Checked. I even already arranged with my mom what packed lunch I would want for my first day because last time she prepared one for me, it was a competitor’s product so I ended up not eating the whole time I was in that office. And then I remember – mani and pedi. So off I go to the salon once more – nude pink instead of the bright neon pink for the career woman that I soon will be am.

Past 8pm – hours before THE day. After dinner, I convinced myself to skip the Koreanovela (Pure Love) I am getting hooked into the past days because I want my first day to be special. I’ll sleep early and just start things right.

And then that call – from Marla of HR. And then from the National Sales Manager. October 3 is the new September 15.

Looks like my bumming around is only getting happier and happier! Cheers 😮